It can be tough to find reasons to be happy, it’s often the case that the reasons to be miserable are easier to find.
Take me for example…. I’m more a summer than winter person… don’t enjoy the cold, snow, wet or windy weather – I actually think I was adopted or kidnapped at birth and really belong to a family who live closer to the equator – or at least the shores of the Mediterranean.
A while ago we had a couple of days of relatively warm weather and I start to open up and feel happy, lots of energy – but this being England the warm weather didn’t last long, back to the wet and then back to the cold snow then rain, rain and more rain – it’s depressing, makes me miserable – hate being cold, hate being wet and hate most of all being cold and wet – and, because I’m not feeling good, I know I’m not doing as much as I ‘should’
– there’s that awful word, ‘should’, so good for beating yourself up with, should do this, should do that, should do more….. same goes for ‘ought to’ – great tools for feeling bad…. the more I dwell on those thoughts, the worse I feel… I know that from past experience….. BUT …….
I don’t want to be miserable, so I was sitting here trying to think of reasons to be happy, reasons to laugh or feel good: music, friends, family yes all are great reasons but none at the moment really touch the ‘core’ of me. Then I remembered, it’s a choice – there is always a choice – you can choose to be happy or choose to be miserable… so ‘I choose to be happy’, ‘I choose to be happy’, ‘I choose to be happy’ – all those other things that bring me down are still there but the sun always shines above the clouds and happiness is a perspective….. I CHOOSE to be happy….
It’s not as resilient a happiness as when the sun’s shining but it’s there I can feel it, it’ll take some nurturing, and lots of repetition but it’ll come – it is growing.
I now have a reason to be happy –
I CAN CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY!